So poor you, you are a Cancer! So am I. We get such a bad wrap in the world of the Zodiac. Apparently, we are sensitive, shy, emotional and moody…pretty much all the shitty qualities. Clearly the person who created the zodiac had a problem with us lovely summer born moon children! For instance, why does a Sagittarius get to be fun-loving, life of the party? Why is Aries the energetic leader? Aquarians the independent intellectuals? Fuck that!!!… (clearly I am a sensitive Cancer)!
Cancers are awesome and we see through all that surface level stuff. We are the most versatile of the Zodiac and come in all kinds of flavours and personality types! Maybe I am a little bias because I am smack in the middle of Cancer Season (July 2nd), but I have met so many variations of Cancers. Yes, we all have many of these presumptuous stereotypes in common, but we are a lot more than that!
Here is a guide for us to help with relationship compatibility.
I have had many friendships and intimate relationships with a number of signs! So, here I will give you a guide on what to expect with specific signs from a Cancerian perspective. Because of our sensitivities and intuitive qualities, we see the deeper aspects of people and the energies they carry. It can be quite annoying to have this ability, but maybe this guide can help! This is clearly just a guide, it is not the be all end all of compatibility. Clearly, there are other aspects to astrology when it comes to compatibility such as your Moon, Mars, Mercury, Rising signs, etc!
AS FRIENDS: Aries are fun-loving friends and they love Cancers because we let them do their thing and don’t really butt heads. You guys are not in competition with each other because you face the world in different ways. You guys are both sensitive, but while Aries is aggressive in their approach, you are aggressive in a subtle way. You are patient and read situations first, while Aries is quicker, but may jump to conclusions. You will be appreciated for making others feel safe and understood, while Aries does the same thing, but by leading people to be fearless and be their true selves.
LOVERS: Aries and Cancers energies are perfect for love-making. Cancer is receptive, and Aries is aggressive, so there is this beautiful back and forth war-like energy that goes on in between them. Both are Cardinal Signs, meaning both are leaders within different pathways of energies. Aries will help Cancer open up and get in touch with their primal sides, while Cancer will help Aries get in touch with their emotional needs that they may have been denying to themselves. Cancer and Aries together can create an intoxicating energy together, but the fire may burn so bright at first that there may have trouble sustaining it! Also take note, Cancer may only have eyes for Aries, but Aries has too much energy to give to just one person. As a result, Cancer might stray if their emotional needs aren’t being met…
FRIENDS: Taurus and Cancer make great friends. They both have this “We have been friends for decades” Vibe. Taurus, an earth sign, is stable AND wild at the same time. Cancer, not the most stable, but a lover of security, also loves getting wild with their Taurus amigo. They both know when to go hard, and when to relax and take it easy. Both signs are sensitive physically, so food and drink are something these two can enjoy together. They can both get on each other nerves because Cancer can be too emotionally raw by pointing out some harsh truths to Taurus, but Taurus can be so stubborn and will never let Cancer win. They might have to agree to disagree for many matters.
LOVERS: Taurus lovers can be lazy but also have amazing stamina, an oxymoron, yes, but Cancers can also lay in bed all day and have sex, order food, watch movies and be shut ins. So yes this works, but it has the potential of becoming repetitive and boring. But of course, Cancer might become moody and pick a fight with Taurus to spice things up so if Taurus has enough patience, this could last a long time!
FRIENDS: Geminis make excellent friends for Cancers. Although they are not the most emotional or sensitive, may of them have the gift of Gab and will listen to Cancers problems and insecurities. Gemini can be gloomy and depressing, but they almost seem to be more intellectual about it instead of emotional. Cancer and Gemini can bond about this and Gemini will make Cancer have more of a sense of humour about their issues (and vice versa!). They both face darkness in different ways and will never feel alone around each other.
LOVERS: Tricky one! Gemini will bring you in with the way you can relate to one another and socialize, but many of them may not have the watery, comforting, fiery energy that pulls Cancer in and turns them on. This is more of a playful, child like love. Someone to do fun activities with. Someone to have a night on the town with. So depending on what a Cancer is going through in life, this could be just what Cancer needs or…not quite enough.
FRIENDS: Cancer friends will understand you like no other sign. Cancer is such a healer that we are sprinkled around in circles of friends, because too many of us might cause minor chaos. When I hear people say nice things about Cancers, which can be rare at times, they usually say “We need you guys!” Why? Because we are like the kind girlfriends that only become ass holes when we are treated badly or taken advantage of. If a Cancer is having an off or moody day, he or she will retreat so you don’t have to put up with their stank attitude. But not many people get that and will want to come around anyway and then get upset when their Cancer friend is being bitchy. We can’t help it, we are children of the moon. We have amazing ups, and really dark downs and that’s why we can relate to so many people on so many levels. We know joy and pain equally. Also, don’t fuck around with a Cancers feelings, they will take it personal. Come correct and don’t screw them over, they do not take fuckery very lightly.
LOVERS: Cancers are very receptive and giving. They want you to feel good and they want you to feel like you can express your love in exactly how you want to. Cancers can adapt to your style of love-making, and depending on how much they love you, they will please you accordingly. Cancers love intimacy, and don’t open up easily, so sex is a way for them to feel close and secure, which is why they always want to have sex. Just get them out of bed, because they are LOVERS. They will lay in bed all day and have sex, without getting anything done.
FRIENDS: I have a few Leos in my life and they are family members or acquaintances. Leos have very big hearts from what I noticed. They are kind of like the Lion in the Wizard if Oz personality wise, except they DO have courage and loyalty, mainly for loved ones. Leos are happy and bright people, but similar to Cancers, they do not take getting hurt lightly. Although they are easy-going with people and give them the benefit of the doubt in most cases, when you push them beware. Leo family members are a blessing, although they are extremely prideful which can be quite annoying for others.
LOVERS: Leos in love have a big ego, but the love for themselves is carried onto the love for their partners. They are extremely generous, loyal and prideful at the same time. As much as they are easy-going, they also love to be right and a couple of steps ahead of the pack…
FRIENDS: Just like Cancers, Virgos are particular as fuck. They are also solid as fuck. They are very logical, analytical, opinionated, and friendly, but some how reserved. Virgos are nit picky but they are very reliable and loving friends, you just have to put up with them. They are good for Cancers because they get ‘it’. They are just as sensitive and bitchy as Cancers, and that is why both can get along so well or not get along so well. They both take disappointments from friends personally, so they may piss each other off or become very close friends.
LOVERS: Virgo lovers are solid. Cancer and Virgo couples are also homies and can take it slow and easy. There is no rush. They are kind of like that husband and wife who will probably be together for decades. Maybe this relationship is best pursuing at 30 years old and over because it might be too mature and stable, but not too exciting. Virgos can give Cancers that security and stability they crave. They also know when the party is over, so Cancer will never feel like a the Debbie Downer/party pooper with them.
FRIENDS: Libras and Cancers are odd friends, but can be very good friends none the less. They both look at the world very differently but can teach one other many things. Libra can help balance out a Cancers labile temperamental moods, and Cancer can get Libra to really feel and indulge their emotions, whether it be anger or bliss. Cancer will teach Libra passion. Libra can be flighty and care free, and Cancer finds it hard to understand, but they both can have a lot of fun together when bringing their very different qualities together, They can learn a lot from one another.
LOVERS: I guess I can only speak as a cis female from this point. Male Libras can be exciting partners for female Cancers. They can both be very chatty with one another and social, but they power their auras from completely different energy sources. Libra can help Cancers not to take things so seriously, and a Cancer can show a Libra how to handle their frustrations since they have so much experience in that realm. They both have a love for beautiful things and harmony, so there will almost always be a rainbow after the storm for these two!
FRIENDS: Scorpios and Cancer are cut from the same cloth. Both intense in different ways, Scorpio lives life in even deeper waters than Cancer, so therefore has a lot of practice sailing through the tides. What derails Cancer, might not be as tough on a Scorpio because Scorpio has been dealing with this almost constantly. Cancer is lucky enough to have ups and down, where Scorpio lives a life of intensity in the deep blue sea. Cancer is like baby Scorpio that hasn’t developed its poisonous stinger yet. Cancer and Scorpio may have some tricky moments together because they can both see right through each others bullshit, but they will never dislike one another because they are siblings among their other Zodiac friends. Scorpios are great allies and friends for Cancerian to have, but might need each other in small doses.
LOVERS: Cancer and Scorpio love in this day and age is very tricky. We both know each other too well, and it might be scared of the powerful intimacy that can grown between us. This match might have to make both protective signs peel off their tough and durable shells to reveal the tender raw skin underneath. Both signs might not be ready for that intensity yet so this may not be the best match for now. A lot of self-development must take place before this can happen.
FRIENDS: I have had nothing but fun with my Sag friends. This rumored “life of the party” sign definitely has ups and downs, but just like Cancer, Saggitarius is an often misunderstood sign of the Zodiac. There is definitely a dark side to the glamour but luckily Cancer can be useful for both sides of the coin. Sagittariuses and Cancer have a lot to laugh at together, for instance their dark sides. They often form underrated friendships. Often when a Cancer is having a bad day, Sagittarians will lend an open ear and tell Cancer to lighten up and smoke a joint, or have a beer. They are easygoing and will not take your moodiness to heart. Saggitarians are quite sensitive and know what a depressed and shitty day feels like. But, they are professionals at not giving a fuck as well. They know how to throw in the towel and let the universe do what it does best. Downsides are that Saggitatrians can overindulge and sweep their issues to the side instead of sorting them out!
LOVERS: Saggitarians are often accused of not wanting to settle down, but I think Saggitarians just know bullshit when they see it and will not settle down with just anyone. Saggitarians have big hearts and a lot of love to give. When they find the one they want to be with, that person will always know. Cancers can be quite possessive and as much as they love all that Sagittarius attention, they need to let Saggitarian spread their wings. Cancers have to know how to jump on the archers back and enjoy the free ride. When the Archer gets tired, Cancer can nurture them and replenish their energy to handle their business. Sags secretly are possessive too but Cancer will never let a Sagittarius worry too long. This can work, it just has to be give and take.
FRIENDS: The matriarch of my family is a Capricorn and so is my aunt. I have some Capricorn friends, but very few. Caps have the reputation of being hardworking and I can’t say this isn’t true. Most Caps I have known have been very reliable people who handle their shit and might even handle your shit for you. For example, while a Cancer might be hung over and call in sick, a Cap will push through and go to work or push the Cancer to go to work! They can come across as reserved, bitchy and serious, but don’t be fooled, for all the hard work, they like to play hard as well. Caps rarely let their guard down, but they can only be strong for so long. Cancers can show Caps how to be fluid, let go and be vulnerable while Caps can show Cancers to stand tall and that they can handle anything that comes their way. They can be great allies and share a lot of laughs.
LOVERS: Capricorns and Cancers are opposites but also extremely similar. The Mother and the Father of the Zodiac, they know how to take a back seat and watch it all unfold into exactly how they predicted it would. Cancer will watch someone screw themselves over emotionally, while Capricorn will see someones laziness screw them over. Cancer provides a sturdy foundation and Capricorn knows how to build.
FRIENDS: I have had a ton of Aquarian friends. Weirdos. Okay kidding. Aquarians are your wacky friends who are just as weird if not weirder than you. They are quirky people and they can relate to many others. They are easy-going and are someone you can bring around others and they wont come crying to you about someone being mean to them. They get along well with everybody. Aquarians might not always be there for a Cancer (the way Cancer wants them to be), but they also know how to give Cancer the space they need without taking things personally. They are emotional, but not as emotionally imprisoned as Cancers. They can make great acquaintances for Cancers and be a breath of fresh air in a Cancers life, especially when things get too hectic.
LOVERS: Aquarian lovers can be dangerous for Cancers. Cancers can be very attractive to Aquarians. They love that Cancerian lunar misery mystery. They are a lot more eager and persistent when chasing a Cancer, and Cancer can usually see the bullshit coming from a mile away. The thing with this coupling is that a Cancer warns the Aquarian, ‘Is this is what you want? Well be prepared!’ Aquarians think they can handle a Cancers intensity, but it proves to be too much for them. Aquarians can be quite cold and neglectful when dealing with their own shit! Not the best match, but if this match manages to keep the energy light, they can have an interesting and memorable time together.
FRIENDS: PISCES is a beautiful sign. Gentle, kind, emotionally intelligent, wacky and extreme, these water signs nest in the same waters Cancer does. Only thing is, Cancer is closer to the safe shore. Pisces swims in turbulent waters and extreme is their middle name. Pisces understands Cancer and Cancer understands Pisces. Pisces is sensitive, but that sensitivity they live with makes them wild people. They know how to channel it and Cancer should take notes.
LOVERS: Courtney Love is a Cancer and Kurt Cobain was a Pisces. They had a wild ride, but all that water energy can drown these two. These two can really create their own world together and play around like piglets in shit. They can handle ups and downs together AND laugh at the other signs of Zodiac that can’t see through the bullshit like they can. They are both intuitive AF. As long as these two come to dry on the sand every now and then, they can understand each other on many deep levels and form a deep and timeless bond. Earth energy is important for these two!
AND THERE YOU HAVE IT MY KOOKY LUNAR LOVELIES! DON’T LET OTHER ASTROLOGY COMPATIBILITY ARTICLES DERAIL YOU FROM LOVE. IT CAN WORK OR NOT WORK WITH ANYONE, REGARDLESS OF THEIR SIGN.